NOTHING IS OFF LIMITS as we take you inside our weekly relationship therapy sessions...to save your marriage and yours...
This is a GAME CHANGING conversation around HOW to communicate with your partner, as our First Time Parents give you a front row seat, as they record their therapy sessions and share them with you!
PRESS PLAY - you will NOT be disappointed & you might actually save your marriage too!
Print out the Symptoms of the Conflict Mind and look at it frequently to begin to identify how often these symptoms are alive in you, them and all over the world.
📩 Download Symptoms of the Conflict Mind here
In todays' therapy session...Griffo tells Heidi that the worry of finances is taking up all of his brain space and this is WHY he isn't emotionally available and present. His needs aren't being met.
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Complete the FOUR TRUTHS tool regarding two scenarios of conflict/ upset. Use one scenario that's between you both, and one scenario that's between you and someone else. Try to identify and articulate the very essence of each truth.
✨ Allow your yearning and their pain to be radically different.
✨ Allow their pain to be different to what you think they should have experienced.
✨ Allow their yearning and your pain to be radically different.
✨ Identify the 'assumed ill-intent' that your mind decided for them (e.g. they were being controlling, they were being critical etc).
📩 Download Communication Tools For Conscious Relating here
Heidi & Griff speak openly about having another child. Griff is a no & Heidi is desperate for another. Her words, "I feel broken."
The couple had to bring a conflict to their therapy session with Fish, they both came with the topic - baby number 2.
This is a very personal, vulnerable insight into their relationship and the conversation they are trying to have around baby number 2 and seeing each others pain instead of fighting about it.
Heidi's heart is OPEN in this ep in a big way, you may need to grab some tissues.
Here's what I want you working on between now and next session, so that you are building your skills and laying new mental pathways:
1. For 2 new conflict scenarios (perhaps you want to continue with the baby scenario?), continue to practice using the 4 TRUTHS tool (attached) and record in your journal.
✨ Validate all 4 quadrants as deeply as you can. Find as many layers as you can.
✨ Allow for incongruence in each quadrant (things that don't make sense, yet are both true)
2. For each scenario, use the TENDING TO THE 4 TRUTHS tool (attached) to create:
✨ A pink diagonal statement (honouring the essence of your yearning AND their pain)
✨ A white diagonal statement (honouring the essence of your pain AND their yearning)
I've attached some different examples of diagonal statements in a PDF so you can find which feel most authentic, or invent your own.
📩 Download Tools - Session #3 here
In therapy session 4 our First Time Parents GO deep into baby number 2 debate.
Griffo doesn't want another one, as he felt depressed after their son Memphis was born. Heidi is desperate for baby number 2 and she bravely speaks into what this feels like.
The couple get very REAL & candid about their therapy session in a post chat, Heidi wants Griffo to feel more into her pain.
You will need tissues for this one, it's a BIG session of both of them FEELING each other. Lots of tears & pain.
THERAPY SESSION 5 BABY #2 UPDATE
"Do I really want baby number 2 or is it society telling me I want baby number 2?" Heidi's words in therapy session number 5.
This podcast not only saved us from divorce court but it has given us the space to speak and dive into this big decision without conflict and since sharing our dirty laundry live to the public, the conflict between us actually dissolved.
In today's therapy session we dive into where the couple are with having baby number 2!!!
THIS IS A BIG ONE!!!!!
